“Rediscovering You” —Finding your sexy after MOTHERHOOD
After I had my son Marri, the last thing I thought about was how to maintain my sexy. I barely showered regularly, let alone had time for self-care (skin care, hair, makeup, personal grooming). I was lucky to be able to get my nails done once a month! This was a difficult transition because I am a huge advocate for self-care and pouring into yourself so that you can wholeheartedly love and serve others. As women, we tend to give to everyone else until our tank is depleted. However, I found that when I took time out for me, I was able to be more of an asset to my family. My grandmother always said, “When you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good, you do good.” During my recent sit down with my close friend and beauty guru, Nicole Gilchrist, I was able to learn from one of the most glamorous #girlbosses in my circle. I am in awe of how Nicole is able to be an amazing wife and mommy and still maintain her flawless glam. During our interview, she gave me the rundown on how she slays and serves.
Dom: I’m sure you have had to make sacrifices to your glam routine when you became a mother. What is some advice that you have for Mamas who want to look amazing but, are struggling to carve out our me-time?
Nicole: When you become a mom you lose time because baby becomes a priority and takes up most of your (time) and attention. Essentially you have to train yourself to wake up earlier, to stay awake when your child naps during the day or to stay up later at night just to have time for self- care and/or glam. For me, I started wearing less makeup on a regular basis and began to cater to my skin so I would feel more confident wearing less or nothing at all.
Dom: What are some of your favorite beauty tips and tricks?
Nicole’s Simple & Practical Beauty & Self-Care Tips:
•Using One Eyeshadow and blending it out with setting powder will give your eyes depth and make them look more awake and open.
• Using one product on several areas, i.e., using blush on the cheeks and for eyeshadow, using a highlight shade to highlight your inner corners, cheekbones, “Cupid bow” and brow bones. Bronzer can be applied for its normal use as well as eyeshadow. And the same thing for lipstick, you can use red lipstick as a color corrector for dark circles before applying foundation and still wear it as a lipstick.
• Mixing oil and a wee bit of shimmer and rubbing it all over your body, (except face because it’s too sensitive) legs, arms, back, etc. will make your skin look luminous, healthy and glowy.
• Curling your lashes will make your eyes look more awake.
• A 10 min hydrating face mask is like giving your skin a tall glass of water!
• Exfoliating your lips will make your lipstick appear smoother.
• Brushing your brows make your brows look well groomed.
Nicole: Here are some product combinations for a mommy with no time, a women on the go or a pretty glam for a simple morning makeup routine.
•Concealer + bronzer + highlight + curl your lashes + lip balm
•Tinted moisturizer + blush + gloss,
• Mascara + highlight + lip gloss
•Curl your lashes + shimmer gloss
• False lashes + blush + lip stain + highlight
• Brows + bronzer +blush +lip balm
Dom: Are these glam combos incredibly time consuming? You know that’s the one thing that Mamas are short on!
Nicole: Essentially you’re using less products to make up for the lost time. However, the outcome is still fulfilling because you will feel beautiful, presentable, confident and look less tired. Chances are, you’ll like your pictures more (AND) especially if you’re wearing a "little something"! As we all know, cameras pick up everything.
Dom: What about the days when I don’t feel as rested and wonderful, mentally & physically?
Nicole: Now, I don't want you to get confused with my message because beauty is in the eye of the beholder and makeup doesn’t “make you” but, looking beautiful starts with feeling beautiful. Applying makeup and enjoying beauty products will only enhance what you already have.
Dom: How do you find the time to balance baby and beauty?
Nicole: Since I'm a makeup artist, when I have a special occasion coming up, I plan in advance what Sophia will be doing during the time I need to glam. I give myself two hours for hair and makeup. And I've learned a tough lesson -my daughter loves makeup just as much as I do so she will play in my products and my setting powder will be thrown down the hallway somewhere if I'm not paying attention. So, I've learned to glam when she naps. Even if the event I'm attending is not until hours later. I've learned to be ok with touch-ups. If you own quality products then your makeup will have longevity anyway. So a touch-up could as simple as setting powder and lipgloss. Easy Peasy!
Dom: What is your best beauty & makeup secret?
Nicole: A flawless face comes from having a regimented cleansing routine at night and NEVER sleeping in my makeup. That habit will clog up pores and give you wrinkles! I believe that great skin will yield an awesome canvas for makeup application. After all your makeup will only be as good as your canvas (your skin).
I learned early as mother you will almost always feel tired but, finding that balance and taking the time for self care is essential. Feeling and looking your best will only uplift you and make you feel powerful and confident. Why not be the best version of you? 💋-Nicole Gilchrist
Edited by Joy Davis